The Fear Of Not Being Good Enough

In my 20 years helping clients market their businesses, go out and get new clients, and step up and play a bigger and bolder game, there is one fear that comes up over and over again: the fear of not being good enough, or the fear of failure.

I’m about to offer a brand new perspective on how to overcome fear of failure – and unlock your hidden power as an entrepreneur.

On the newest episode of BernadetteTV, “How to Overcome Fear of Failure (or Fear of Not Being Good Enough)” I’m NOT going to try to logically convince you that you ARE good enough – because if you’re carrying around a sense of not being good enough, it’s operating at an emotional level.

It’s time to shift this, once and for all.

 

The Fear of Not Being Good Enough

First, let’s talk about how the idea of not being good enough can show up in business.

If you don’t put your marketing out there, because you’re afraid it’s not good enough and you keep telling yourself you need more time to get it ready, fear of not being good enough may be stopping you from taking action.

If you don’t set out with big, bold offerings to attract your clients, you may be telling yourself a “not good enough” story.

Finally, if you are attracting clients who are very demanding and find whatever you do is not good enough, then you may be experiencing a sense of not being good enough.

The thing is, this is a story you’re telling yourself. It might be a very convincing story, and it’s likely an “old” one you’ve taken on and have been carrying around with you for some time.

And if this is the case, you’re likely finding evidence to prove that story true.

It may be that you start to recognize that there are subtle things you do that enable you to play out the “not good enough” pattern over and over and over again.

So here’s what NOT to do if you believe this to be the case with you:

Do NOT spend time trying to figure it out! So many people want to understand why, where does this come from, why do I do this? Why can’t I overcome this?

You can spend years trying to overcome it by approaching it that way.

A far more powerful and faster way to shift this pattern is to align with the deeper truth about yourself.

 

We are powerful beyond measure

There is a quote by Marianne Williamson that goes like this: “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

I have clients who have struggled with the idea of not being good enough – and underneath that is a more powerful gift they were scared of or wanted to avoid.

For example, I have clients who talk about not being good enough, but they actually have a gift of being more than enough. Just their presence makes a difference! They can alter the shape of the room simply being who they are.

It’s cool, and it’s powerful.

But often, rather than owning our magic, it’s easier to make up a story about not being good enough that enables us to carry on hiding, stay stuck in fear, and avoid stepping out fully, owning our gifts and sharing them with the world.

So I have an invitation for you.

If you can relate to the idea of not being good enough, and you’ve been trying to figure it out for years, answer this question:

Find your deeper truth

Q. What is the deeper truth about yourself that you’ve been avoiding? What is the power you’ve been afraid of?

Step up and own it. Claim that power today.

I’d love to see you post in the comments section below – share what you’ve been avoiding. Once you begin to shift this perspective, you shift everything else, too.

And remember – Marianne Williamson also said that as we give ourselves permission to shine, we unconsciously give permission to all those around us to shine, too.

In other words, the moment you evolve past the “I’m not good enough” story, you’re helping to heal the world!

Thanks for watching. If this has struck a chord with you, please leave a comment below. & Remember…. “You Are Powerful Beyond Measure” 🙂

[spoiler]Hello and welcome to Bernadette TV, online TV to help you be the best you
can be in your business and your life. And today I want to talk to you
about the fear of not being good enough.

The reason I wanted to do an episode on this topic is because in all of the
years I’ve been helping people to market their businesses, go out and get
new clients, step up and play a bigger and bolder game, one of the things I
see come up time and time again is where people doubt that they’re good
enough. And today I want to talk to you about this; I want to give you a
really different perspective from how you may have thought about this
previously.

So the first thing I’m not going to do is I’m not going to stand here and
try to logically convince you that you are good enough, because if you were
carrying around a, you know, a sense of not being good enough it’s actually
operating on an emotional level, but there is a really powerful opportunity
to shift this once and for all.

So let’s talk about how the idea of not being good enough could show up for
a person in their business. It can be that you don’t put your marketing out
there, because it’s not good enough. You think you need more time to
improve and make it better. It can be that you don’t set out with your big
bold offerings to attract clients, because you’re frightened at some level
that you’re not going to be good enough. It could be that you even end up
attracting clients, and I’ve even seen this happen too, and I’ve actually
experienced it myself that you attract very demanding clients who will
almost find whatever you do not good enough. And so it’s a pattern, and an
idea that we have about ourselves that can just go on and on, and on.

So the first thing that you need to recognize is that this is a story, it
might be a very convincing story, but it’s an old story that you’ve taken
on at some point in your life, and ever since then you’ve been finding
evidence to prove that story true. So it may be that you start to recognize
that there are subtle things that you do that enable you to play out the
not good enough pattern over and over, and over and over.

So here’s what not to do; what you don’t want to do is spend time trying to
figure this out. So many people who have a story of I’m not good enough
want to understand why. Where does this come from? Why do I say this? Why
do I keep doing this? Why can’t I get over this? And you can spend years
trying to overcome the fear of not good enough by approaching it that way.
A method that I found far more powerful and far faster to shift this
pattern is to align with the deeper truth about yourself.

So let me explain what I mean. You may have heard that quote from Marianne
Williamson that says “Our deepest fear is not that we’re inadequate, or not
good enough, our deepest fear is that we’re powerful beyond measure.” And
one of the things I’ve noticed is in the clients that I have who have
struggled, and also myself, because this is something I’ve struggled with,
the idea of not being good enough is where underneath that there was a more
powerful gift that we were scared of or wanting to avoid.

So for example, one of the things that I know for sure is the clients that
I have that talk about not being good enough, underneath it they actually
have a gift of being more than enough. And these are the clients who make a
difference just by their presence. They can alter the shape of the room
just by who they’re being rather than what we’re doing. But if you think
about it, you know, as cool as that is to be able to do that, that’s also
pretty powerful stuff, and as they say great power comes with great
responsibility. And so often rather than own that magic about ourselves,
what it’s easier to do is go and make up a story of not being good enough
that enables us to carry on hiding, to stay in fear, to not step out fully,
and owning our gifts, and sharing them with the world.

So today my invitation to you is if you can relate to the idea of not being
good enough and you’ve been trying to figure out for years how to get over
this, my question for you is what is the deeper truth about yourself that
you’ve been avoiding? What’s the power underneath that, that you’ve been
afraid of? And I want to challenge you to step up and own, and claim that
power today, and I want you to talk to me about this. I want to see in the
comments below you sharing what it is that you’ve been avoiding, because as
you shift this, you actually help everybody else to shift this too.

In that same Marianne Williamson quote she goes on to say, “As we give
ourselves permission to shine, as we allow ourselves to shine, we
unconsciously give permission to all around us to shine also.” So you’re
not just doing this for yourself, the moment that you drop an evolved past,
the I’m not good enough story, you’re actually helping to heal the world,
and I think that’s worth doing.

So I hope this episode has helped you, please write your comments in the
boxes below, and I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode
of Bernadette TV.[/spoiler]

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