The Power of Decision
It’s time to get personal!
Today I’m sharing the single most important tool when it comes to transformation in any area of your life: the power of decision, or choice.
When you make a decision, or a choice, to transform, everything changes.
If you’re a regular viewer of BernadetteTV, you may have noticed you’ve seen less of me recently. In the past 4 months, I’ve lost more than 35 pounds. Yes, it’s true. Many people have been asking me what I do, how I diet, what my secret is.
Today I’m going to share with you something that might surprise you. It is absolutely the key to this weight loss journey I’m on – and it can also be the key to massive transformation in any area of your business or life.
First of all, my inspiration for this journey is my sister, Tina, who lost more than 113 pounds over the course of a year (you can see a video about her journey, here).
Power of Decision
For me, everything shifted when I made a choice – a single decision.
You see, for 30 years, I have defined myself as someone who struggles with weight. Because of my weight problem, I suffered through the thinking, the struggle, the frustration, the yoyo dieting. It had an effect on my self-esteem, and it was costing me in several ways.
But then I suddenly had this insight: I’ve been through 30 years of effort, of struggle, of being miserable about it. Even murderers get out after 25 years!
So I made a decision: I am done. I am SO done with having a weight problem!
I’m going to evolve right past it.
And when I made that decision, everything changed for me.
I used to struggle because I thought I had 2 options: I could stay on a diet all the time, and stay the size I wanted to be. Or I could eat what I wanted and accept that I would be bigger than I really wanted to be.
But having used the power of decision to evolve past the weight problems, a new option opened up in front of me.
Now, make no mistake: I love my grub! I couldn’t be on an eating plan I didn’t get tremendous pleasure from. Now, I have a fantastic menu plan, I’ve worked out the exercise, and I can still have a glass of red wine. And it’s working. The weight has been falling off!
This has been a huge learning experience for me. It’s about so much more than losing weight.
It’s about the process of transformation.
So I’m here today to say to you, if there is something in your life you’ve been telling yourself you wanted, but you don’t have it yet, then you haven’t made the decision.
The moment you make the choice to have that thing, you begin the process of obtaining it.
Now, I’m not saying it’s a “magic wand,” and everything transforms overnight. I’m in the midst of my own journey, and I still have more weight to lose. But energetically, the weight is already gone. My body is catching up with the decision I already made.
It may take months, or even years, but I don’t care because I know it’s going to happen. It’s already happened – I’m just waiting for it to show up.
So if there is something you want, and you’ve been telling yourself you want it for a long time, and you’re frustrated, struggling and disappointed, today is your opportunity to make a decision. Choose to be done with the struggle, choose to go for it, and commit to getting what you want.
It sounds really easy, doesn’t it?
So why don’t more people use the power of decision? Maybe you’re even thinking, “Wait, Bernadette! You don’t understand. I have made the decision, and it’s not working!”
Sometimes we think we’ve made a decision, but we haven’t. So I am going to share a few things with you about the time before my decision, and the time after it, so you can get an idea of whether you have truly made your choice.
Before my decision, if I was attempting to lose weight, I encountered obstacles rather than opportunities.
For example, if I went on holidays with my sons, I would tell myself, “Just this once, I’ll have a treat.”
But I’ve stopped that. We went on holiday for Easter, and we were away for 2 weeks. At the resort, there was a weigh-in scale that helped me stay on track, and I easily found meals at the resort that were fully in line with my meal plan. Suddenly, I was seeing opportunities.
Also, before my decision, I did a lot of bargaining. “I can get away with it. That won’t hurt. I’ll start tomorrow.”
But after I made my decision, that just didn’t happen anymore. There was no wagon for me to fall off, because I’m not on a wagon. Now that I’ve committed to put the problem behind me, it IS behind me.
So you need to examine whether you’ve really made that decision.
If you are reluctant to make it, or say you have but you haven’t really made it, it is often because you don’t want to risk disappointment. And this usually happens around an area of chronic struggle. You have experienced disappointments and hurts, and maybe you remember getting excited because it was working initially, but you ended up experiencing disappointment when it stopped working.
You may say things like, “I’ll try it and see,” but that’s another indicator you haven’t made the decision.
Once you have, there is no “try.”
It is about follow through.
I have been learning so much on this journey. It’s been a stretch for me to share it with you today, because I know I might draw some criticism about my body.
But when it comes down to transforming an area of your life, something in your life that is really important to you, it is too important not to share.
I hope it can inspire you to step up in an area of your life where you’ve been struggling, whether it’s relationships, money, weight loss, or something else.
What experience have you had with transforming certain areas of your life?
I’d love to hear from you about your triumphs and your struggles, your challenges and your successes!